Life Troubles Of Working Women: Career And Marriage Dilemma

If the husband is busy and the wife is free, this contradiction may be avoided, because we all accept the idea that "men should strive for careers outside to create better living conditions for the family, while women should spend more time on managing the internal affairs of the family", so that the wife can find various grounds to persuade herself to understand the husband. Your family is different from the traditional position of husband and wife, so the problem will be more complicated.

　 　 Family soft reality

conventional marriage The pattern is that men are stronger than women. In both the East and the West, the most stable families are those in which men dominate and are stronger than women. On the contrary, if women are much better than men in marriage and love relationships, for example, the wife is a strong woman, and the husband is very ordinary, which subverts the traditional family model of men outside and women inside, and becomes women outside and men inside. At this time, the wife may feel that the gap between her husband and herself is too large to be her own dependence, and thus despise the other party; Or even if the wife doesn't feel anything, the husband himself often feels lost and doesn't have enough sense of value. Psychological estrangement between the two sides naturally affects feelings and all aspects of life. In psychology, there is a special term - family soft reality to describe this family phenomenon of strong women and weak men. Your family obviously conforms to this pattern, so it is understandable that your husband feels lost and powerless.

In fact, it is not difficult to avoid the negative impact of the soft reality of the family. As long as you show more reliance and dependence on your husband in daily life and family decision-making, let him find a psychological balance and generate a sense of self-worth, it is easy to help him restore self-esteem and self-confidence, readjust your relationship to an equal position, and narrow your distance.

　　 cause And marriage

Other ways to improve your marital status include:

1. Encourage the husband to devote himself to the development of his own career, or help him develop his own interests and hobbies, so that his life becomes more fulfilling;

2. Improve their work efficiency and management ability, and moderately free themselves from heavy work;

3. Carefully weigh the significance of career and marriage to yourself, and reallocate your time. After all, your company will still operate normally even if you leave, and your marriage is doomed to wither if you are absent.

Life is rarely perfect. If you really can't abandon your career and persist in pursuing on this road, and your husband can't fully understand and accept you, he may not be suitable for you. You are more suitable to find a partner who has the same ambition as you and is also keen on pursuing a successful career, or is willing to be the husband of the man behind you in order to support your career.